Update: It seems a bit ironic that MPs should announce a review of how children are taught to act around dogs on the same day I had scheduled my post about how we encourage children to interact with our pup and the rules we have established to ensure everyone has a happy but ultimately safe time.

On a recent dog walk, I saw a sign stuck to some school gates. It read along the lines that ‘due to a child being bitten by a dog on school premises, dogs are now banned from this area’.

Chatting to hubby that evening, our own pup laying at my feet, I said that whilst it was sad that a child had been bitten, the dog was probably blamed and even potentially destroyed. Obviously, we don’t know the details of the incident but I’d guess that a child approached and tried to touch the dog as it was tied to the school gates, whilst its owner was collecting their child. We’ve had similar things happen to our own pup, where she was tied to a fence while we were sat next to her having our lunch. Two children ran up to us and without asking, grabbed our pup in a bear hug before running off.

As a general rule, the majority of dogs are man’s (and women and children’s) best friends. They aren’t Cujo‘s, wandering the streets, looking for humans to maul. However, like all animals, they have their limits and work on the principals of fight or flight.

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We love dogs here in Casa CH but have had to work hard to train not just the dog, but also the Lamb in the correct way to interact with each other. We’re not a family who has a lot of rules (be kind, clean up after yourself and make sure mama always has a cup of tea are pretty much it), but here are a few set-in-stone rules we have with regards to dogs:

  • Never approach a dog you don’t know, especially if the owner is not present;
  • always ask the owner’s permission before touching a dog and follow any guidelines they might give, for example, only stroke the back;
  • don’t bother a dog whilst it’s eating or sleeping;
  • our pup doesn’t like having her feet touched. Like a human, they all have their preferences for where they will be touched and you must respect that;
  • don’t approach a dog if its tail is down or tucked under its body as these are often signs of fear;
  • Our pup will do anything to get the last rays of sun – even crawl under the Lamb’s trampoline!

  • ditto, don’t approach a dog if it’s growling. I’ve seen owners tell their dogs off for growling but it’s the dogs early warning system, a bit like a smoke alarm going off to tell you your house is on fire, a dog growls to give you the opportunity to stop whatever you’re doing which is annoying it;
  • always give dogs space. The fight or flight impulse is strong with dogs. Their first instinct is to ‘flight’ – they will walk away unless cornered (which is why I think the dog described above may have bitten the child – it would have been unable to escape if it was tied to the school gates);
  • Our pup is a real cuddler and will practically sit on your lap if you let her, but she’s not keen on fidgeters and doesn’t like to be grabbed for bear hugs. She’ll endure both but will walk away as quickly as she can. It’s the rule not to chase her;
  • if a dog has a ‘safe area’ you have to respect that and not bother the dog if they’re in their safe zone. In our house, the dog’s bed and crate are her ‘safe’ areas. If it’s a little too crazy with mini humans or visitors, or if she just wants a timeout, then she’ll curl up in there and come out again when she’s ready. Disturb her at your peril!

We firmly believe here at Beagle HQ that by respecting a few rules, dogs and children will be the best of friends!

Do you have children and a dog? What rules have you set to ensure a happy home? Sound off in the comments!


Louise (Little Hearts, Big Love) · October 17, 2018 at 8:15 am

I didn’t know about the tail being a warning sign (thank you for that!) but agree with all of these. I have always reminded the girls when out and about to check first as the dog doesn’t know them and might be frightened of them. Plus you don’t touch people unless you know they’re ok with it and the same goes with dogs.

    Geraldine Clark Hellery · October 17, 2018 at 8:39 am

    For us, looking at tails is a very quick, rather crude reference, but generally, if a dogs tail is up, they’re alert and curious, wagging they’re happy or a little unsure, while tucked under means they’re scared. It’s really interesting watching our pup because when she’s in ‘search’ mode her tail whips back and forth like a windscreen wiper, then once shes caught the scent her tail goes straight out behind her as she charges off. We had a friend visit last week and the pup didn’t like her for whatever reason so her tail was right under her.
    For us, looking at a dogs body language works easier than being afraid of their barking. Again using our pup as an example, she’s a beagle and beagles are a barky breed – they bark if their excited, nervous, want to play, are hungry or if they just want attention! Some of our friends are a little unsure of her barking, which I understand, but once I show them that she’s relaxed or just wants a cuddle they all have a fun time.

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